People have so many different emotions running when trying to plan an intervention for a loved one with a substance abuse problem. Partly, it’s expecting the worse, thinking their loved one will reject every concern. Part of them is praying this is the time he or she answers the wakeup call and decides to take steps in the right direction. No matter what the expectations may be the ultimate goal should be to get your loved one to agree on attending rehab.
Not everyone understands what it is like to live with an addiction. Those who do not understand tend to pass harsh judgement down to those with a substance abuse problem, asking questions like, “why can’t you just stop?” -and- “Don’t you know it’s killing you?” This may make your loved one feel ashamed to ask for help. Many people who are addicted to drugs or alcohol feel isolated from everything and everyone they once loved. They are not sure they can go to family and friends for help because they have judgmental toward their substance abuse problem.
Or maybe your loved one is in denial about their drug addiction or alcoholism issue. It can be hard to reach someone who is unwilling to see the writing on the wall. The point that has to be expressed to your loved one during an intervention is that if they continue to go down the road they are going, they will end up dead. Rehab, prison or death are the only three ways to cope with an addiction. Obviously, you want to see your loved one attend rehab. Here are a few main points to keep in mind while staging an intervention:
Do not try to wing your gathering. Know who you want there and how you want to go about expressing concerns to your loved one. Ask each person who will attend the intervention to come with a written statement with a specific example of how the loved one’s drug or alcohol got in the way of their relationship. These examples should also include how it made him or her personally feel. Going around the room in a circle, everyone can take turns reading their scripted statements. Your loved one might say that everyone is making stuff up to gang up on him or her. Assure your loved one that everyone there cares about him or her and all that is being asked is that the loved one listen.
Be Assertive, But Not Judgmental
It will be easy in an intervention to lose your temper toward your loved one. That is because it should be obvious that your loved one needs help. Understand that it might not be that easy for your loved one. Most people who are addicted to harmful substances feel that they have their drug and alcohol use under control. If you point out to your loved one in a nonjudgmental way that they are losing control of their life because of their substance abuse habits, then maybe it will open their eyes to the idea of rehab.
Professional Help is Available
It’s always a good idea to seek help from a professional interventionist. This intervention specialist can help keep everyone calm while the discussions are taking place. They can also help each party convey their emotions so that no one gets out of hand. It can be hard for those gathered and your loved one to admit or convey how they really feel about the situation. No one really knows where to turn when it comes to helping a loved one fight back against an addiction. But the interventionist can help with that.
Try to Have a Rehab Center Selected
If your loved one decides to agree with everyone and accepts the fact that he or she needs to attend rehab, then be ready. Try to research some treatment facilities and maybe even have one selected so that you can make arrangements immediately. We can help you find a center for your loved one. If you give us a call, we can help you research and select a facility that will hit all of your love one’s personal needs. There are so many options out there when it comes to addiction treatment, you want to make sure that your loved one is getting top-notch care. We want to be the ones who help you help your loved one. Our addiction specialists take calls 24-hours a day to assist anyone with any substance abuse questions.
Do Not Give Up
If you have already had one, or multiple, interventions for a loved one that has backfired, do not give up. It is not uncommon for a loved one to need multiple intervention gatherings before it clicks for him or her. Again, your loved one might think that they are in so deep to their addiction, that they are past the point of help. You have to prove to them that is not true, and change is always possible. Take away some of the feelings of isolation to show your loved one that people still care about them. Your loved one probably feels down in the dumps and worthless because they are in the situation that they are in. allow your loved one to release some negative feelings while showing them that there is nothing embarrassing about asking for help. Millions of people have been able to make a comeback from lows much lower than your loved one is in now.